How to Tackle Codependency

God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble. Psalms 46:1 NKJV

To tackle an issue, you must get to the root of it.

To get rid of weed in a garden, it’s best to pull it from the root, not the tail. If you pull it by the tail, you leave the root in the ground. And just because you don’t see it on top of the soil doesn’t mean it’s still not there, deeply rooted in the ground. It will grow above the soil where it can be seen once again.

Our issues of life are the same way, deeply rooted in our hearts. The only way to get rid of it is by dealing with it. Codependency doesn’t just happen out of the blue. It’s nurtured from childhood experiences. If you ever wonder why a grown person clings to you so much that it drains you, ask that grown person about their childhood. Ask them if they got their basic needs met. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, there are five needs that dictates human behavior. Those needs are physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. When these needs do not get met during childhood and adolescence, a grown person may still be in an infantile position seeking and longing for safety, love, and belonging. Every person’s experience is their own truth.

To tackle codependency as an adult, you have to deal with the things you may have experienced in your childhood. You may have to forgive someone. You may have to get therapy. You may have to seek the Lord to help you. You may have to forgive yourself. You may have to walk away from an unhealthy relationship. You may have to do all of the above. You are the one who has to choose what works for you and what doesn’t work. It is God’s desire for you to live your life well. He cares for you. He wants the best for you. He will perfect that which concerns you, if you let Him.

Codependency is real and emotionally draining. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in others because they can fail or disappoint us. We have to learn to depend on God more so than others when it comes to our identity, emotional well-being, and seeking attention/approval. We may never get these things from the people who we may want to get it from, but there is One who can fill every void in our lives. And His name is Jesus Christ.

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Published by Tyra E. Rowell

I am an introverted innovator and empath who has strong views about life, mental health, and faith. I am big on perspective. I believe we should breathe and take another look before leaping to conclusions. I am a psychotherapist with an Ed.S. in Counseling. I desire to encourage and help God's people to live life abundantly in every aspect. Spirit, soul, and body.

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