How to Tackle Codependency

“God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble.“ Psalms 46:1 NKJV

To tackle an issue, you must get to the root of it.

To get rid of weed in a garden, it’s best to pull it from the root, not the tail. If you pull it by the tail, you leave the root in the ground. And just because you don’t see it on top of the soil doesn’t mean it’s still not there, deeply rooted in the ground. It will grow above the soil where it can be seen once again.

Our issues of life are the same way, deeply rooted in our hearts. The only way to get rid of it is by dealing with it. Codependency doesn’t just happen out of the blue. It’s nurtured from childhood experiences. If you ever wonder why a grown person clings to you so much that it drains you, ask that grown person about their childhood. Ask them if they got their basic needs met. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, there are five needs that dictates human behavior. Those needs are physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. When these needs do not get met during childhood and adolescence, a grown person may still be in an infantile position seeking and longing for safety, love, and belonging. Every person’s experience is their own truth.

To tackle codependency as an adult, you have to deal with the things you may have experienced in your childhood. You may have to forgive someone. You may have to get therapy. You may have to seek the Lord to help you. You may have to forgive yourself. You may have to walk away from an unhealthy relationship. You may have to do all of the above. You are the one who has to choose what works for you and what doesn’t work. It is God’s desire for you to live your life well. He cares for you. He wants the best for you. He will perfect that which concerns you, if you let Him.

Codependency is real and emotionally draining. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in others because they can fail or disappoint us. We have to learn to depend on God more so than others when it comes to our identity, emotional well-being, and seeking attention/approval. We may never get these things from the people who we may want to get it from, but there is One who can fill every void in our lives. And His name is Jesus Christ.

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Signs of Codependency

“Am I now seeking the approval of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.“ Galatians 1:10 BSB

According to got questions dot org,

“One result of a codependent relationship pattern is that God takes second place to people. Codependents rely on each other for emotional needs and even some physical needs rather than take care of themselves. They also lack faith and trust in God to care for their needs and, as a result, manipulate others to get what they want. Codependent people typically are attracted to one another and will keep each other stuck in a dysfunctional blind spot by telling each other what they want to hear. This way, they both can feel okay, despite the chaos their choices are creating. Obviously, people who avoid telling the truth in love have trouble recognizing their own sinful habits or need for repentance.” (https://www.gotquestions.org/codependency.html)

Wow…just reading this makes me think of how toxic a relationship can be and how easy it is to get trapped into one. This is one of the reason why broken people can’t help others who are broken. More than likely, both parties will be even more broken in the relationship due to trying to fill a void in a destructive and dysfunctional way. It’s not healthy for either party.

From a spiritual standpoint, codependency is idolatry. When we put people before God, we are committing idolatry. God says there should be no other gods before Him (Exodus 20:3). People have been placed on pedestals as gods as if they have all the answers to their problems. And sometimes, they don’t even know it. But we all are responsible for our own actions. No judgment there because I have done it too. When I realized that codependency was destructive to my own well-being and beliefs, I ended the relationship. I thank God for deliverance and therapy.

Codependency is real and emotionally draining. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in others because they can fail or disappoint us. We have to learn to depend on God more so than others when it comes to our identity, emotional well-being, and seeking attention/approval. We may never get these things from the people who we may want to get it from, but there is One who can fill every void in our lives. And His name is Jesus Christ.

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What is Codependency?

“It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.” Psalms 118:8 KJV

According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, codependency is defined as:

1. the state of being mutually reliant, for example, a relationship between two individuals who are emotionally dependent on one another.

2. a dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is psychologically dependent on (or controlled by) a person who has a pathological addiction (e.g., alcohol, gambling). —codependent adj.

Codependency is real and emotionally draining. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in others because they can fail or disappoint us. We have to learn to depend on God more so than others when it comes to our identity, emotional well-being, and seeking attention/approval. We may never get these things from the people who we may want to get it from, but there is One who can fill every void in our lives. And His name is Jesus Christ.

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By His Strength, Not Our Own

“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.” Ephesians 6:1 NKJV

There are just some things we can’t do within our own strength. Sometimes it gets hard to be strong by ourselves so we need that extra person to help us along the way. The Lord provides us with strength but you have to have strong faith in the Lord. He is our provider and He strengthens us so we can be strong and His power grants us that. Call on the Lord in your time of need and talk to Him because without Him, we will fall.

The lesson of the day is the Lord is our strength and like it says in the bible “the Lord is my shepherd” let Him be what makes you strong.

Written by Tia Edwards, 10th grade student

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A Moment of Despair

“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.” Psalms 43:5 KJV

Showing vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. Actually, it is a sign of strength to acknowledge your feelings and process your thoughts through them. It’s okay to cry and show emotions, but it’s not okay to suffer in silence. It’s not okay to walk around in life as if you have it all together when in reality you’re about to have a breaking point. You don’t have to wait until you have a breakdown to release the ailments of worry, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, and anger. All these things do is break you down piece by piece, slowly, but surely.

Life is too short and there’s so much living to do. So much loving to do. So much to still laugh about. Seek therapy if you have to. There’s nothing wrong with seeking therapy. Find an outlet or a hobby to occupy your time and mind. Talk to someone, especially someone who makes you laugh. Breathe. Live. Love. Laugh. Let it go. Be free. Be vulnerable. It’s okay to have a moment of despair.

It is my prayer that during your moment of despair, you will lift your eyes toward the sky and remember the things God has already done in your life. As you remember, you become encouraged again. You smile again. You hope again. Not only because God has done so much for you, but because you know He will do it again. Without a shadow of doubt. A moment of despair can turn into a moment of praise.

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